Neither the beauty of nature nor other people with their worries can attract her attention. With her headphones and loud music she shuts herself off from the world outside. (Even when she is talking to you she seems to be somewhere else in her thoughts starring into space)
She doesn’t even take care of herself, she often forgets to have a meal in time, and you can never expect her to show off her culinary skills. She is not interested in clothes and other little things which usually make any other woman happy. Should something contradict her point of view she will never get involved in an argument, she will just cut herself off from this person. If the outer world becomes aggressive or unpleasant - she will hide in the shell of her feelings and find relief in the stream of her own thoughts.
For this type of a woman having a baby means going through a difficult test and sometimes can cause a lot of suffering. The less realized her audial vector is the worse she feels. She is the one who has always focused only on herself and her own feelings, sometimes even forgetting about her basic needs, and now all of a sudden she is forced to take care of someone else.
Pregnancy itself can create some positive emotional state. It allows an audial woman to concentrate on her dreams, on her changing conditions, and on the silence around her. It gives her a feeling of joyful anticipation.
And then it happens! Here comes the baby! Someone who she used to dream peacefully about when it was inside her becomes the outside irritation factor… Now this little crying bundle drives her crazy as her sensitive erogenous zone - her ear – is exposed to intolerable pressure.
Quite often after childbirth an audial woman develops (so called) postnatal depression, a serious condition when the woman may entirely forget about her physical body and feel absolutely no emotions towards her child, she may even go as far as committing suicide or abandoning her child.
WHY CAN A CHILD CAUSE SUFFERING TO MOTHER?
Her child makes her get out to the “external” world as she constantly has to respond to his needs and she can’t retire into her shell again. She doesn’t like it, but she can’t ask the child to shut up or hold back from eating, she can’t ignore his demands.
More than anyone else she needs peaceful atmosphere and concentration on herself, meanwhile her crying child demands her full attention. She has to feed him, to bathe him, to change his diapers. And besides, the rest of family also expects her active involvement into different household chores such as preparing meals, cleaning the house, buying clothes. All these activities might be a simple task for an anal woman, but not for an audial one.
Now she almost never has an opportunity to be left alone. But an audial woman doesn’t always realize that she needs solitude and suffers not knowing the hidden reasons for this state. Life seems less and less meaningful to her. An unrealized audial mother sinks deeper and deeper into herself; she doesn’t get “outside” to her child when it is necessary. Her life becomes a kind of “day dreaming”.
- Mommy, I’m hungry…
- Wait a moment… I’ll get you something.
- Wait a moment, mommy is thinking… wait a little bit.
- You can go and play for a while. Granny will come and play with you soon.
“My God, I’m so tired of all this cooking, cleaning, …. I can’t stand it anymore…”
- Where are your socks? I’m sure I have put them somewhere here. Go and get others…
An audial woman can feel comfortable only when her dominant audial vector is realized. Whatever her other vectors are, the audial desires are priority for her. These desires are not material, not connected with our physical world; they are about finding the First Cause, the meaning of life. When these desires are not fulfilled, an audial woman loses her contact with the external world, she becomes more and more self-absorbed, has difficulty communicating with other people, remains detached, keeping distance from everybody including her own child.
She feels frustrated because she is unable to take care of her long awaited child and doesn’t know how to cope with most simple tasks. Quite often in an attempt to get rid of these problems and hating herself for the helplessness, she leaves her child to the care of grandmothers or nannies.
The situation can become even worse when an audial woman has no support from her partner, who (for example in case of having an anal vector) even tends to scold her for being a bad mother, or when she helplessly watches her anal-visual mother-in-law successfully handling baby care and shooting disapproving glances at her from time to time.
Solitude and realization of her dominant vector are vitally important for an audial mother. In this case she will have a chance to externalize herself and connect with her child and other people, to start seeing their needs and taking an active part in their lives. She will be able to understand her own purpose in life.
Training in Vector Systems psychology can help her in this. Here in Vector Systems psychology portal with the help of Yuri Burlan one comes to understand the essence of their audial vector and their specific role. They see clearly which way to follow in order to realize themselves instead of fighting their nature.
Certainly if an audial woman has other vectors they will also influence her behavior. When there is a visual vector, for example, she will extravert more easily. But anyway she will need some periods of solitude and quietness after her visual emotion exits.
A realized audial mother can teach her child to think and understand oneself. She can be very sensitive to his needs and avoid imposing her own desires on him. Her realized audial vector unleashes the desires of other vectors, which have been suppressed for a long time. In this case an audial mother can demonstrate an exceptional ability to give.
You will know more about different conditions of the audial vector and the ways of its realization in the training on Vector Systems Psychology. Here you will find out how to fulfill the parent’s most important task – how to raise a psychologically healthy child able to realize oneself through adulthood.
Yuri Burlan doesn’t just offer a new method of avoiding suffering, he provides a new understanding of life and an ability of independent dimensional and system based thinking.
By Ludmila Marchenko, chemical engineer
Translated by: Gulnaz Ishbuldina
The article is based on the training given for Vector Systems Psychology presented by Yuri Burlan.
